For years now, I have been giving myself pressure and judgement for not having figured it all out yet. Being 30, living at home with my parents, not being physically able to have a fulltime job, being single without any kids and without much in my bank account, seems like the epitome of being a societal disappointment.
And in those moments, when loneliness or self-loathing are dominating one’s mindset, it’s easy to be the biggest judge reinforcing said disappointment. The problem with such feelings is that it puts a person into a self-sabotaging funk, digging a deeper hole of debilitation. It took me a while to see the beauty in figuring things out. Once you recognize its beauty, negativity turns into positivity, and demotivation turns into inspiration. Not having everything sorted, means that life is an adventure and you have the freedom to try out different options. When you do not have a whole lot to lose, you have a whole lot to gain. Your life can become as interesting as you want it to be, and each struggle brings with it an added layer to your character, creating depth and a series of traits that will lead you to a more fulfilled life. One with gratitude, compassion, love and excitement. If you truly believe in that and spark your inner fire, there’s only one thing left to do: MOVE. Just move. Take a step forward, no matter how small, but move.
I was always afraid to settle and thus miss out on what was truly meant for me, but I realized that by standing still, I would lose time, not get to know myself and always stand in front of a closed door because I was too afraid to knock on the wrong one. As a result I will have achieved, what I was most afraid of: missing out.
So, I implore you to just move, knock on doors, and see what excitement awaits you around the corner. You will know soon enough which door opens, which welcomes you the most, which one feels right and gives you that A-HA feeling of:
I am home.
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